DJ, play me Timaya’s ‘In this life I can’t kill myself’ and Tekno’s ‘Allow me to enjoy myself’.
Nigerians and Entitlement
Since returning back to Nigeria I’ve realised one thing. Actually two, but we’ll get to the second one in a bit. The first is that the average Nigerian is entitled. It’s the reason a security guard will see you at the visa office and automatically demand you give him some of that U.K./US money since you seem to have so much of it. It’s the reason someone you’ve borrowed money to will immediately get angry the moment you decide to come and collect what they owe you. The average Nigerian reaches for your elbow when you’ve stretched out a finger to them.
I’ve never understood why people are so adamant against paying tithes. Like abeg, pay tithe. Don’t pay your tithe. It’s not God you’re doing; you’re doing yourself. Like you say you’re a Christian, you say you believe in God, you say you have faith in God. You say that everything you’ve gotten today you got from God. Except your money? Okay, you’re “concerned” about what the pastor is going to do with your money? Then stop paying taxes then, since the money is going to a power/body you have absolutely no control over how they spend the money. Stop giving to charities then, since you are so worried that they’ll steal the money and use it for their own benefit.
I’m so tired of seeing people trying to overrationalise tithing! You give to God because he’s given to you. You give to Him because your 10% (or more) is a slight physical representation of your gratitude for who HE IS and the things He’s done for you. Your concern for whatever goes on in the middleman process is none of your concern to be honest! And in the same vein, if you give to God begrudgingly, only because your pastor has preached about giving tithe and the blessing that comes with it and how “you’re going to go to help if you don’t” then you might as well not bring your money to God because it smells to Him. It’s the sole reason He rejected Cain’s offering even though theoretically, it was “the best”. God judges by the intention and motive and not any outward activities. God loved a cheerful giver.
So news flash, whether you decide to not give God doesn’t hurt Him. Like everything in the Bible was written not for his benefit, but for ours, so best believe you withholding your tithe because deep down you don’t believe God has any need for your money doesn’t hurt Him.
About building a relationship with God
A relationship with God starts with intentionality. Intentionality to want to live a life that 100% pleases God. Intentionality allowing Him to be at the forefront of your life, leading and directing you. It’s not about justifying a life of sin and trying to serve both God and flesh. The devil will do everything to drive a permanent wedge between us and God and so will normalise sin and make it look extremely. attractive. God is a holy God and so we must be holy as He is.
“The devil will do everything to drive a permanent wedge between us and God and so will normalise sin and make it look extremely. attractive. God is a holy God and so we must be holy as He is.”
Intentionality in understanding that your body is God’s temple, meaning you can’t just let any and everything inside it— we need to selectively allow only those things that please God into it. If most people understand the beauty of the presence of God, they wouldn’t be so quick to try to fill their lives with temporary fixtures. They wouldn’t be so quick to try to silence the voice of God and the Holy Spirit by intentionally putting themselves in situations, places and circumstances that do just that.
Lastly, we’re all called into separation from the world— we are in the world, but not OF the world. The moment you start thinking, reasoning, acting and living like the people of the world, then, your relationship with God will be severely hindered.
“Study and be eager and do your utmost to present yourself to God approved (tested by trial), a workman who has no cause to be ashamed, correctly analyzing and accurately dividing [rightly handling and skillfully teaching] the Word of Truth.”
2 Timothy 2:15 AMPC